Unleash the Power of Self-Talk | The Power Within

We talk to people everyday, but how often do we realize that we're constantly in a conversation with ourselves too? While eating, walking, running, swimming, sleeping and even while we talk to other people, there is always an inner monologue going on. A conversation of one with oneself. This is exactly what we call the "self-talk". It can either be a constructive one or a destructive one. Intriguingly, how we talk to ourselves matters the most. It is what we constantly keep telling ourselves - 

"Today is a wonderful day, I'm so grateful to be alive." Or

"Ugh, I hate mornings."

"I can do this." 

Or

"I can't do anything right."

I'm worthy of all the success."

Or

"I'm useless and good for nothing."

If you're an optimist and a positive person, you're more likely to involve yourself into a constructive self-talk whereas if you have a hard time staying positive, you're more likely to get yourself into a destructive self-talk. Believe it or not, it is what shapes your reality and the quality of your life. 

But, you have the power within you to take charge of how you talk to yourself and turn the negative self-talk into a positive one and we're here to unleash the same power. 

A RECIPE TO POSITIVE SELF-TALK -

It's a recipe with just three ingredients - Realize, Reframe and Replace (The Three R's) & is sure to work for you of course with a dash of dedication and commitment towards yourself. 

1. REALIZE AND RECOGNISE - 

The mental chatter never stops but you have the power to change the way you think. Recognise the kind of thoughts you have. Do an inner inspection and see if your thoughts are constructive or destructive - one easy way to do this is by learning to become mindful of your thoughts. 

When you wake up in the morning, be mindful of how you feel. Are you happy, excited, energised to start a new day or you feel just the opposite? Monitor your thoughts for the rest of the day and you'll know what all thoughts you need to work on. 

Therefore, once you realise and recognise the pattern of your thoughts, it becomes easier to reframe them if needed. 

2. REFRAME AND RECONSTRUCT - 

Now comes the part that will require your most dedicated and constant efforts - as and when you find yourself getting into a negative self talk, immediately reframe your thoughts and turn it into a positive self talk.

Remember, what you tell your mind is exactly what it starts believing. 

When you wake up and tell yourself - "Ugh, I hate mornings."  The negative side of your brain begins to justify the fact that you hate mornings and gives you all possible reasons to stay in bed instead. 

But if you reframe your thoughts and tell yourself - "Today is going to be a wonderful day, I'm so grateful to be alive". The same brain which was justifying that you hate mornings, now justifies the reasons to look forward to a wonderful day. 

3. REPLACE AND REINFORCE -

Mindfully, begin to replace all your negative self talk and begin to reinforce positive thoughts. 

 If you keep reframing your thoughts, your thoughts begin to change from bring destructive to being constructive. 

They say, "You should always talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love."

HOW POSITIVE SELF-TALK HELPS - 

1.Self-talk is a powerful tool which can help you change your life for the good. Our lives are mostly affected by the way we think. The quality of our thoughts determine the quality of our lives. 

2. It helps you boost your self confidence. When negative self-talk is replaced by the positive self-talk, your attitude towards life will change. And when your attitude changes, your altitude changes. 

3. It can help you achieve your goals in life. They say, "Whatever the mind can conceive, it can achieve." Positive self-talk helps you do just that.

4. It can be therapeutic to indulge yourself into a positive self-talk. 

5. You can actually talk yourself out of any situation in a positive manner. 

Remember, each morning, the first thought that you have, determines the kind of day you'll have. Make sure to think good thoughts and feed your mind with all the positivity it deserves. Not only will it improve the quality of your life but it will also help you stay positive, happy and cheerful on the inside which will reflect on the outside. You have the power within you to make it happen!